Inspired by this article in Newsweek on a couple that just sees no point in getting married, I wanted to offer my two cents.

Having been in a lasting relationship for almost 5 years now (crazy!) I still have little to no desire of getting married.  It just doesn’t seem to suit us.  We still feel like kids–marriage is an ‘adult’ thing.  I don’t want a perfect dress and a perfect day.  I don’t want a ring.  Mentally, we already feel as though we are “married” in the sense that one of us feels like only half of a person without the other.  Why spend all that money on extravagance that is never going to be as perfect as you want it?  We were thinking of just getting a license, but after reading this article, should we even bother?

Says the article:

If it’s not a wedding, if there’s no priest or piece of paper from the state, some people just don’t give any weight to your commitment—despite high divorce rates that remind us that such formalities offer no guarantee the relationship will endure.

In the days where marriages are performed without a second thought, and divorces occur just as frequently, ceremonies seem to carry less weight and offer little value other than to make for pretty pictures.  Obviously ceremonies and marriages might appeal more to others, but for me I just don’t see the point.  Far from being sacred, it has been over-commercialized and causes unnecessary stress financially and mentally (Bridezillas anyone?).  Not for me, thanks–I’m happy just by being with him and knowing that he is happy being with me.

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